- What is the real meaning of human life?
- How to find the source of happiness
- The actual methods to solve our daily problems
- How to accomplish our ultimate goal
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Excerpt from this book:
The Benefits of Cherishing Others
Another reason for cherishing others is that it is the best method to solve our own and others’ problems. Problems, worry, pain, and unhappiness are types of mind; they are feelings and do not exist outside the mind. If we cherish everyone we meet or think about, there will be no basis for developing jealousy, anger, or other harmful thoughts, and our mind will be at peace all the time. Jealousy, for example, is a state of mind that cannot bear another’s good fortune; but if we cherish someone how can his or her good fortune disturb our mind? How can we wish to harm others if we regard everyone’s happiness to be of paramount importance? By genuinely cherishing all living beings we shall always act with loving kindness, in a friendly and considerate way, and they will return our kindness. Others will not act unpleasantly towards us, and there will be no basis for conflict or disputes. People will come to like us, and our relationships will be more stable and satisfying.
Cherishing others also protects us from the problems caused by desirous attachment. We often become strongly attached to another person whom we feel will help us to overcome our loneliness by providing the comfort, security, or excitement we crave. However if we have a loving mind towards everyone we do not feel lonely. Instead of clinging onto others to fulfil our desires we shall want to help them fulfil their needs and wishes. Cherishing all living beings solves all our problems because all our problems come from our mind of self-cherishing. For example, at the moment if our partner left us for someone else we would probably feel very upset, but if we truly cherished them we would want them to be happy, and we would rejoice in their happiness. There would be no basis for us to feel jealous or depressed, so although we might find the situation challenging it would not be a problem for us. Cherishing others is the supreme protection from suffering and problems, and enables us to remain calm and peaceful all the time.